On Being Enough

So many of us these days struggle with striving - to do more, to be more, self-improvement, work success, kid success, work on the relationship, the endless guilt of not doing enough, and the glorification of “busy” - it feels never ending. When I ask my clients what “good enough” would look like for them, I have never had anyone able to give me an answer other than some form of “I have no idea.” Especially for those of us who were raised to be high achievers and got our validation from being good students and hard workers, the always aspiring mentality doesn’t go away after graduation and promotions and the external sources of validation from grades, diplomas, and slightly more impressive titles. We are left with reaching for the next rung or hoop long after they have run out. So we turn to the podcasts and the books and the instagram reels that promise no end of possibilities for self-improvement or inner peace or better relationships or parenting advice or whatever might be the particular hole we are looking to fill. And then that becomes an endless quest for a goal that will never be. So my questions to you are what is good enough and what if you already are enough? How would it feel to be able to say “I am enough” and to actually start to believe it? So many of my friends and clients are saying things like “I’ve got no f@cks left to give” or “the f@ck it button has gotten really big.” When the f@ck it button has gotten big, we have already reached the state of burnout and exhaustion. If you relate to any of this, please join me and share this blog with others as I share some ideas about how to be enough and feel like you already are enough. The paradox is that we can feel better when we stop trying so damn hard to feel better.

Are you in?

Welcome to Being Enough. 

Jennifer Miesch, Ph.D. 

Licensed Psychologist and Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher